Today on the blogoshphere I discovered a blog by a fellow Philadelphia area-ian, Dorie Morgan. Her post “Activities Don’t Equal Relationships” caught my attention – very well written, and with great insight.
I love discovering other 20-something bloggers. I know there are just shy of 70billion of us out there, but I really enjoy when I find a well written blog that talks about balancing life, career, creativity, and any other things that us 20-somethings may come across. I’ve added Dorie’s blog to my google reader – and really look forward to reading it.
In “Activites Don’t Equal Relationships“, Dorie says:
At the end of the day, it is not the organizations I am involved with or the work that I do that defines me. The relationships I build are what matters most and it is too easy to let all of the other “stuff” get in the way. The relationship I have with my husband is far more important than a relationship I might someday develop outside of my home.
I think this is a really good insight. I was involved in any number of things in college. My friends now roll their eyes when they ask what I do now I’m at home and I begin to list the myriad of activities I’ve got going on. I did come to a point in college where I began to deliberately be involved in things – during Senior Year there were times when I wasn’t home in the evening for an entire week straight, but each of the things I was involved in was something that I enjoyed and found value from.
Now that I’ve graduated, I’ve gotten more involved in some things around the Philadelphia area – not enough, I think, of the types of things I would like to be doing – there are a few community service organizations I have my eye on – but it is enough to keep me busy without being terribly overwhelming. This balance of work, play, school (part-time graduate school), friends, family: it is one that is constantly changing and shifting as my own life changes.
How are you involved in your community? How do you balance life, work, play?
I sometimes wish I were as active as you in everything you do. If I had unlimited time (and money of course), I would get back into voice lessons, take some drawing and painting classes, possibly an adult dance class (a class for adults, not dancing in a scandalous way), and possibly a book club.
Sometimes I wonder if I lived closer to work if I would have the time and energy to do these thing when I get out of work each day. Maybe I will start chipping away at that list, one by one…
You rock. Now is the time in our lives to do these things, to form these relationships with people with similar interests. Absolutely.